MARRIAGE

MARRIAGE

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.

She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.

She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.

When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.

She requested that every day for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife's divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside
the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.

On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.

I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.

Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.

At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead.
My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.-- At least, in the eyes of our son--- I'm a loving husband....

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you.

If you do, you just might save a marriage.
Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.

By Stephanie Halmilton

Câu chuyện này Nếp lượm được từ 1 người bạn.

i read this for a long time ago and very touching. My friend and I were dissscussioned if it's a real story or not . Yet, there are so many things that you can never done for 1 person but i do not know why men want more women ...

I have read various versions of this story before and I don't think this is a true story...there are 3 more lines to this story that promotes a Christian lifestyle (which I deleted). Yet, it's a very touching and inspirational story.

The story uses the man as the first person, but it could easily be written with both persons changing their roles. Woman do have affair outside marriage, and have initiate divorce, too. Not all men want more women, nor all women want more men. Some do some don't. Some value what they have and some don't, that's just how some people are, not a men or women problem.

When we're on the the good side of the fence we tend to think it's OK and our victims were somehow wrong. When we're on the bad side of the fence we also tend to think they are wrong and that we're somehow the victim.

Can we see it? Will we still value it? Can we keep the commitment? I think those are questions that each person has to find the answer for themselves; it's not a question for a specific gender. :)

cuoc song la vay do,neu thieu su quan tam tu 1 trong 2 ngươi thi bat cu chuyen gi cung co the xay rạ, we ko the do loi cho men or women trong cau chuyen nay.

ok ok...i wrote only 3 sentences but hơw come you came up with many sentences?..hehehe...

Really, neu ho ko yeu nhau va thương nhau thi den voi nhau lam gi de roi phai so* xót voi nhau?...co phai la mâu thuẫn lam ko?

Nhưng đâu thể giây phút nào cũng quan tâm cho nhau được, cũng có lúc này lúc kia chứ. Khi vui tính thì ai mà không biết quý mến người bên cạnh họ, nhưng khi buồn liệu họ có biết quý mến những điều "hằng ngày" này không? Nếp nghĩ nếu là sống chung với nhau thì phải biết cách vượt qua những khó khăn này với nhau. Chỉ là "nghĩ" vì Nếp chưa được sống cuộc sống này cho nên không biết. :)

It was because you typed slow. In that same amount of time you could only write 3 sentences, while I could write many sentences. :D

J/K...maybe you're busy and don't want to write long, while I have more free time and felt like writing a bit longer. :)

Ai nói là họ không yêu nhau, họ có yêu nhau mà. Trong câu chuyện có nhắc đến là đêm tân hôn họ vui vẻ lắm mà. Nhưng sau đêm đó chuyện ra sao thì không biết. :uhh:

Nep...Đ hỏi Lamlaicuocdoi chu*' hong có hỏi Nep...ai cho trả lo*`i đó hả?...:)

Nếp trả lời vậy thôi, lamlaicuocdoi cũng có thể trả lời mà. Với lại Nếp trả lời về đêm tân hôm thôi, còn sau đêm đó thì để cho lamlaicuocdoi trả lời. :D

sao vay ne, sao ma co ngươi buc xuc vay chu? thanks itsholiday tra loi gium minh 1 phan hen :).
@THD " yeu thương nhau ah? uh ho co yeu thương nhau, but do chi la su yeu thương nhat thoi, de roi dot nhien 1 tinh cam khac chen lan vao thi se lam thay doi suy nghi cua 1 trong 2 ngươi,them vao do la su thieu quan tam lan nhau, ket qua la chia tay. :) Khi yeu nhau ngươi ta thương it quan tam den mat thu 2 cua moi ngươi, va den khi 1 trong 2 ngươi phat hien ra mat thu 2 nay thi ho se quay lai voi tinh yeu dau, or tim doi tương mọi :)) " doi la the ma " :)

Sao lại có mặt 1 mặt 2, khó hiểu vậy nè... :uhh:
Nếp thì nghĩ người không chung thuỷ thì khó giữ, người chung thuỷ thì dễ giữ.

oh,voi cuoc song vat chat thi 2 tu "chung thuy" se bi be gay de dang :)

Vậy thì không sống cuộc sống vật chất là tìm được chung thủy rồi. :D

2 ngu*o*`i này sao nhiều chuyện thế? vậy lamlaicuocdoi đã lập gia đình chưa?

Vật chất và tình yêu không thể đi đôi và cũng không mang ra so sánh bởi vậy 2 bạn đừng mang nó ra để nói...hehehe...Đ không biết...ai muốn sao thì sao...Đ không quan tâm và Đ cũng không búc xúc gì cả lamlaicuocdoi ơi..:0

Bàn qua bàn lại với nhau cho vui thôi. Câu chuyện này cũng khá hay.

Lúc trước THĐ và bạn bàn xem câu chuyện này có thật hay không. Kết luận như thế nào? :)

bay gio thi 2 dieu nay di chung voi nhau, lap gia dinh? :) tương lai thi chua :)

Vậy là cũng có người nhiều chuyện theo rồi. :y21: j/k...

Không hiểu... :uhh: :g:

Chưa lập gia đình mà sao suy nghĩ bi thương vậy? :D Cheers up!!! : :dance1: